5 Tips to Combat Pre-Wedding Jitters
Wedding planning can be stressful. If you combine the extensive planning process with having a full-time job, it’s no surprise that jitters and anxiety can creep up. Thankfully, “pre-wedding jitters” are completely normal, but there’s a difference between stress and having legitimate concerns about getting married.
Nothing wrong with being a little nervous before the big day, but if your jitters are impacting your daily life, you should do something about it.
Let’s talk about some ways to combat those pre-wedding nerves.
Five Tips for Pre-Wedding Jitters
1. Remember why you’re getting married. Planning a gigantic party to celebrate tying the knot with the love of your life can be a daunting task, but remembering why you want to get married is important here. There are a lot of details to contend with and the whole process is a lot to stomach, but remember that this wedding is really just about you and your partner—nothing else matters!
2. Have some time with your fiancé where you don’t talk about the wedding. Wedding planning is all-consuming, and it can add to the stress of the wedding-day jitters. You should plan at least one night a week where you and your fiancé spend time together without discussing the upcoming wedding day. See a movie, go out to eat, but take a break from wedding planning.
3. If you have marriage concerns, talk it out or consider counseling. If your jitters stem from very real issues, such as disagreements on having children, how to raise them, religion, or even substance abuse, then it’s important to talk it out. Discuss these issues prior to the wedding so you can relieve this mental/emotional pressure avoid these obstacles later on. Pre-marriage counseling is an available option and has many benefits, like giving you a safe space to talk openly to your fiancé with a neutral third-party present.
4. Hit the gym and get some exercise. One of the best remedies for anxiety is exercise. When your body is tired, your mind tends to follow suit. Sweating it out in the gym or spending some time outside breathing in fresh air helps to release serotonin in the brain and is a fast method to combat stress!
5. Spend time with your family and friends. Last, take some time and spend it with your family and friends. It’s easy to get wrapped up in your relationship and your wedding planning, but taking a weekend away from your routine, getting away with your best friends, or holing up in your parents’ house for a few days can be the perfect remedy for pre-wedding jitters. Plus, if your friends are already married, you can discuss your jitters with them—guaranteed they’ll have some great advice and funny anecdotes to calm you down!
Wedding jitters is a completely natural response and, if you’re having serious concerns about your relationship, it is 100% ok enroll in couple’s therapy. Therapy is something we all can benefit from. Having a neutral third party will offer a safe space for discussing uncomfortable issues and an outside perspective, broaching subjects that may not be discussed otherwise.
If you feel secure in the future of your marriage, but it’s the planning portion that’s keeping you up at night, remember to take it easy sometimes, talk about things other than wedding planning, and spend plenty of time with your family and friends.